I know that for me, I was in hell when I believed that my Father may not actually love and save all of His children. It was a literal hell worrying about my loved ones and not knowing whether or not I could truly trust the Father that I had so loved and trusted in the beginning.
I would bet Micah, that the people you have been speaking with are also in hell. They just don't realize it.
Ronny to Lomarah:
I know how disturbed I was,when an uncle of mine passed on,when I was 17teen years old. He and my aunt,in what was said to be a cult Christian group. So I had been taught in church,that this uncle of mine went to hell. :-( Before that,it was hard enough when a much loved cousin passed on,when I was 12yo and my Granny,when I was 15 or 16yo. But at least with them,I knew they were with God. So as much as I mourned their passing,at least I was taught,that they were in heaven. Then as I got older,I simply did my best,not to think about all of the people,that I was taught were going to hell. Well,I was taught in church,to be a Calvinist in belief and that God chose some few to go to heaven and the rest, simply went to hell. And there is no way,to believe that way and think on it much and still stay sane. So,as I got older, I simply tried to keep my mind off of such,as much as possible. And it simply astounded me,when I observed fellow Calvinists in belief and some acted so high and mighty. Acting as if they were so much better,than the great mass of humanity. That was just something,that I could never understand,of another person like myself,who was also Calvinist in belief. It simply,made no sense to me?!
And Lomarah,some of those people you spea of,they are in the hell of selfrighteousness and don't even know it. I know I was there,until God brought me out of such. God did that for me,when I was born of God,at 16 years old. Then I was back to my Calvinistic teaching church,for the next year. And I didn't get as bad then,as I had been before;but I still fell back into thinking, that because of the local church I was in,that I was better than a lot of other people. Very strange thinking,for one who is a Calvinist in belief;but then I've seen other Calvinists,who are the same way. So in the year after God saved me,as I say, I fell back some,into my selfrighteousness. Then an older brother and I,we went back to the Baptist Bible camp,where God had saved me,the year before. And for 5 straight days,the youth teacher,he taught on nothing else;but the sin of selfrighteousness! :-( LoL And after the first lesson,I thought surely he will teach on something else tomorrow! But no, he didn't! LoL Well,God certainly knew what I needed then,to bring me to repent on that sin in me! :-) And on the last day,after the last sermon,I went up to the front of the church and told the preacher what I was coming up for. What God had called me on and caused me to repent of. And I was sort of dumbfounded and a bit shocked that,that preacher wasn't interested in such,at all. Well,I wanted to tell people,what God had done for me;but didn't get the chance to,that time.