Guilty myself, so I'll say it. It's reminders for me, and if anyone else gets anything out of it, great.
When I just
1.)"KNOW" that I'm the one that's right and unwilling to bend or yield, ("Fail")
2.) State it in those terms to others, and without gentleness and love, ("Fail")
3.) It just follows that it will sound and feel like criticizing, judging, being puffed up, "thinking more of myself than I ought"... ("Fail") and I
4.) Think of the scripture that states "take heed, lest you fall".
I believe that's how God teaches me, by humbling me sometimes with my own faults and failures. He wants me to see those, not just gloss them over and move on, having learned nothing. Paul was sent "a messenger of the Lord to buffet' him. It was to teach him he was nothing without God and that only God's grace was sufficient. Only God's grace. And that is humbling.
I fail, I get angry, I can be extremely sarcastic, and I have to fight all that. I often fail, and I will fail again. But hopefully I will learn from it and continue to grow in my ability to love others, treat them with gentleness and respect, accept that they may have a point for ME to think about, not just blatantly, blindly insist that I'm right. I'm very good at doing that. Very slowly (hopefully, without too many more "knock-downs") God is working a little more patience, and hopefully love and respect for others...but I'm still bad at it. However, in us all He is working a work, He disciplines us as sons, and CHRIST IN YOU/ME THE HOPE OF GLORY.
God's blessing, James.