There seems to be a maturity about UR. I don't mean that the only people who believe it are necessarily mature, but the notion/idea/belief, of UR has an inherent maturity.
A child screams "Mom I hate you"! A mature mother gets it: she doesn't need to slap the child and enter into some kind of competition with it to prove that 'mom is in charge and mom is right'. She understands that the child is a child, and she is an adult. Someday the child will understand. For the moment however, mom is there to take care of the child, regardless of how important the child might think it is. (I have seen parents competing with their own children as to who is the adult, and it is quite disconcerting. In this post however I will be talking about mature rational parents.) The Parent doesn't need to dominate the child. A compassionate parent has to patience to understand that when they were children they needed guidance, not beatings. The child doesn't need to be told it will go to Hell if it won't submit, although wielding the Hell stick is a tool some parents use.
Hell in one way seems so immature.
I sometimes think that there are people who actually look forward to seeing other people in the Hell of ET. I think they secretly relish the thought "keep it up sinner, someday I'll see you in Hell and I'll smile at you rotting there forever (que the evil laughter). Hell for some seems to be the place where all the people who ever did me wrong will wind up and I will be vindicated because God and I will laugh at them; they will be punished because they hurt me: that'll learn 'em.
Okay, okay, I confess I've had those thoughts myself. Knowing that those jerks were gonna find themselves in Hell was justice in my mind. So, it was kinda necessary for there to be a Hell ... not for me, mind you, for them. Someone wrongs me, off to Hell. Someone disagrees to me, it's off to the Hell for the stupid for you. Just you wait 'enry 'iggins, just you wait. I took solace in this knowledge. I hung out with folk who also took solace in the knowledge. Can you imagine being in so much pain, that the thought of some one else going to Hell was a good thing (notice the shutter, as I type).
Some of us have to have a hell or else there is no way to prove that we were right. We also need Hell to prove that there was meaning to all the pain and suffering through which we went while we were down here.
Now however, things are different.
I see the Beatitudes in a different light. I see the notion of The Father more clearly. God is The Father, He doesn't have to compete with His kids to prove that to Himself, or to others.
"Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust." Matthew 5:43-45 KJV
Because our Father is patient with all His kids, we now know that those who curse us and despitefully use us will also come to the father. They are not our enemies, even though they kill us in this life, they are brothers and sisters ... fellow travellers on the way to The Father. I think when God shows us that no one will be lost, a certain maturity seems to be inherent in that revelation, a cetain patience comes about: perhaps an understanding to not take those affronts personally, perhaps an understanding of the words 'forgive them for they know not what they do'. We are all children, maybe part of having recieved a certain amount of God's understanding allows us to treat each others and ourselves as such: we see that we all need a lot more patience for ourselves and others. Maybe what happens when God shows us His plan is two fold, we see that there is no Hell, and we see that we no longer have need of one.
I once told some friends of mine, "be careful whom you choose as your gods, for you will become like them". I see now that is truer then I had originally thought.