I guess we all have heard those "all does not mean all, especially doesn't mean especially" arguments. But what about this?
For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39)
Jesus and Paul told us it is indeed a challenging task to qualify as an elect. Many would try to win the race but fail to do so. Even Paul himself was unsure on whether he would make it. Now, if disqualifying means facing eternal torchery, how could these verses make any sense whatsoever?
I can recall having heard two explanations from ET believers.
#1: "Yes, God's love for you will never end. Even if He's forced to send you to an endless hell He is still going to always love you. It will break His heart having to do that but since God is Infinite Holiness, any lesser penalty simply would not be enough."
My Answer: I know how it's like to lose a loved one to death. It hurts like hell. So, you're saying that one day, God, whose love is supposedly millions of times greater than mine, is going to lose billions of loved ones to something infinitely worse than death: ET? How is God ever going to mentally recover from Judgment Day? If your beliefs are the truth I sure hope some of the best shrinks to ever live make it to Heaven!
#2: "Once saved always saved. Paul is writing to people with a genuine born-again experience. However, most people will never be born again. They will face eternal damnation."
My Answer: Read Hebrews 6. Paul is also saying it is possible to fall away. And, if falling away = getting sentenced to ET, then Rom. 8:38-39 is a lie and a lot of things are actually able to separate us from the love of God. Prove thyself worthy or burn!