There are 3 different kinds people calling themselves Christians.
1) Verbal professors: say and don't do
2) Intellectual Knowledge: Hearers and don't do
3) True Born Again Knowledge: The ones who do. The ones that does the Fathers will.
I know you missed an important kind of Christian because I was that kind. This other category which you omitted was described by the apostle Paul. This was not taught where I was starting out so I suffered horribly within because I seemed so other than a real or true "born from above" being.
Romans 7:15-25 (Concordant Literal Translation)....
15 For what I am effecting I know not, for not what I will, this I am putting into practice, but what I am hating, this I am doing.
16 Now if what I am not willing, this I am doing, I am conceding that the law is ideal.
17 Yet now it is no longer I who am effecting it, but Sin making its home in me.
18 For I am aware that good is not making its home in me (that is, in my flesh), for to will is lying beside me, yet to be effecting the ideal is not.
19 For it is not the good that I will that I am doing, but the evil that I am not willing, this I am putting into practice.
20 Now if what I am not willing, this I am doing, it is no longer I who am effecting it, but Sin which is making its home in me.
21 Consequently, I am finding the law that, at my willing to be doing the ideal, the evil is lying beside me.
22 For I am gratified with the law of God as to the man within,
23 yet I am observing a different law in my members, warring with the law of my mind, and leading me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
24 A wretched man am I! What will rescue me out of this body of death? Grace!
25 I thank God, through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Consequently, then, I myself, with the mind, indeed, am slaving for God's law, yet with the flesh for Sin's law.
I wondered for a long time, even with Bible verses, if God was anointing me so I had power to do differently, or if because of His presence I was different. Thinking His Spirit was helping me, I tried very hard in many ways and it didn't work. I found it is not about our change. It is about His presence.
I have a gay friend who has at least temporarily fallen away from following Jesus because of this very thing. He says if anyone tried to change it was him. "It just didn't work." That is a faulty understanding of salvation. Let me repeat: It is not about our change. It is about entering into His presence.