Well, 1Timothy 2 says to pray for everyone everywhere and doesn't specify the living or the dead. It just says to make sure that you include anything/everything anyone/everyone that would have baring on the peace of the Church, though it would be understood to include anything/everything anyone/everyone that would have baring on each member of the Church. If Jesus isn't the ransom for all men, as stated in that chapter, then what's her assurance that He's the ransom for any man beyond the first century AD?? -- which by the way is one of the dangers I see inherent in preterism, that if it was all back then, then who's to say that it wasn't just for all men back then that He died to the exclusion of everyone else?? Some preterists might not like the implication and may have an emotional reaction against the question, but the reasoning is valid nonetheless.
If 1John 2:1-2 says that Jesus is the propitiation for our sins and for those of the whole entire world and if the second half of that is bullcrap, then why isn't the first part sheer bullcrap as well?
If Mark 16:15 about preaching the Gospel to every creature -- remembering that Gospel means extravagent superexcessively extraordinarily fantastic [though not incredible] great, great news in the Greek -- if it doesn't mean literally "out of this world news to all of Creation," then on what basis do we preach it to any man since Christ Jesus was obviously speaking in bullcrap after His resurrection, per your girl's ideas, rather than in Hebrew, Aramaic, or Greek.
If Jesus Christ is the Lamb of God that took away the sin of the world, according to John 1:29, then on what basis can we conclude that He's taken away any man's sin if John 1:29 is bullcrap and He didn't take away the sin of the world??
I'd personally bid her adieu, if it were me, if she could say something so blatantly blasphemous against the Blood by which I've been sanctified. But that would be much easier for me than for most people for several personal reasons. Without getting into the megalomania aspects of my personality, I'll simply say [since someone inevitably PMs me about it if I've tried earnestly to be brief] that abandonment issues add to it being particularly easy for me to part ways with people since I genuinely don't believe that anyone in this earth will be with me to the end of my days anyway. So, my own mentality is that "sooner or later, they're gone anyway, so might as well get it over with rather than prolong my punishment and torment by thinking that they're really 'with me' rather than with themselves and out for themselves alone."
If you're not careful, if your life has been about nothing but pruning thus far, you can easily get to where [in your weaker moments] that that's all that your life will ever be about until 1Corinthians 15:28, "and even then who knows?"
Seems like you're at a couple of forks in the road:
1. Is she rational enough, or sensitive enough to Holy Spirit to where she'd eventually come around if given enough evidence by the Scriptures and Holy Spirit, or is she one of those "her mind's already made up, don't confuse her with the facts" as quite a few people have historically been.
2. Is it a deal breaker for you to where it matters that she's on the same page with you if you're to be life time partners? If when you get married to her, if you're not already, if you can go home everyday to an ETer/Hellangelist type that probably secretly fears you'll burn forever too for believing as you do, then just don't bring it up again if you can deal with being canned like a sardine for the rest of your life with an ETer. But on a certain level, if she's not on the same page with you, then it does involve the two of you living two entirely separate spiritual lives while living for the rest of your lives under the same roof and in the same bed.
I personally couldn't do it, but that's just because I've personally been through sooo much already. Going to an ET church is one thing, if they're not focusing on that with every breath that they breathe during the service, but having to put up with ANY OF THAT at home is a bit much. It gets to the core of her perspectives about the world, life, her image of God, and her image of you to where it does matter. But if you can live with that because of your love for her being soooo intense, then simply don't bring it up again. But you're kidding yourself if you think that she'll ever look at you the same way again after she finally understood that you believe that not a drop of Jesus' Blood will have been wasted and that He'll finish the work given to Him to do by the Father when He was appointed to His next assignment at God's right hand from the Book of Hebrews until 1Corinthians 15:28. To me, it would be a Blood issue, although I realize that not all UR folks are on the same page with me yet about things like that.
With her ET mindset, you know that her underlying goal, even if she doesn't approach it militantly, is to bring you around to her way of thinking/believing. With you in her life, she faces UR every single moment of every single day that she's with you, and as you said, she thinks it's bullcrap.
