Ahoy Capiton !
I understand what you're saying as I was also raised in an E.T church. The E.T still lingers a bit within me but when those thoughts creep in, I remember LOVE prevails, God's victory has already been won! You are going to get through this! Have faith. You were BATHED in E.T teachings which after hearing it all your life can weigh heavily on your mind & because you are used to motivation based on fear that has become the "norm" for you. This is going to be a transitioning process, you're gonna have to let God work on you & get you to a new state of thinking & into a new norm. However we are also told to study the word in depth so it does not hurt to ask questions & search for truth. Just pray to God that the Holy Spirit gives you guidance, whether you're studying on your own or getting the opinions of those of us here.
I find it easiest when I think of the entire relationship between God & mankind as a 'perfect' parent & his imperfect children. Our sinful flesh & the author of confusion definitely will cause some doubt & confusion (look what a mess has been caused with mainstream Christianity). However sometimes relating things to an easily relateable human emotion can help one better understand something. Not everyone has been a parent but we've all been children so keep that in mind while you read the following.
A 'perfect' parent is loving, forgiveness is UN-ENDING even though they get angry with us. When we don't heed their warnings, they have do dish out their 'righteous anger' or I like to say loving punishment, to correct us. The punishment is not out of anger, but more out of love, to teach us that their are consequences for our actions, to help us understand that we should not do whatever we did again, because when we hurt they hurt, they don't want to see us struggle or in pain (who would want to see someone they love suffer), however it is necessary to the learning process, to hopefully help them become a well & rounded adult.
Now take that principle & apply it to a truly perfect being, God who IS love & His purpose for mankind. He knew the outcome of this world before He started creation on day one (the following scripture proves this), everything was pre-ordained, including the fall, for some purpose. Isaiah 46:10-11
Declaring the end from the beginning, And from ancient times things which have not been done, Saying, `My purpose will be established, And I will accomplish all My good pleasure'; Calling a bird of prey from the east, The man of My purpose from a far country. Truly I have spoken; truly I will bring it to pass. I have planned it, surely I will do it.
Adam was not made complete, but made like a new born babe. Innocent, intelligent, but not really having an understanding of good & evil, if he did have that knowledge then eating the fruit would of made no difference in him. As a curious child does not heed the warning of the parent out of curiosity, neither did Adam. Therefore everyone after Adam fell, by no fault or choice of our own we were destined to be born into a sinful flesh.
Why? What I get from the scripture in reference again to being a parent & child, is experience. Good & evil has to be learned by experience. Taking a science approach, for every action there is an equal & opposite reaction.
For each sin we commit, we will pay! The bible is clear on this. However is it fair that for a limited life of sin one must spend an unlimited time in conscious torment? When parents dish out their punishments to their children the punishment normally reflects the seriousness of the wrong doing does it not?
I believe the way God inspired the word & Jesus spoke of Him as Father or Daddy, was to help us understand the correlation between a father & parent, but in God's case its in a perfect sense of a parent child relationship.
I guess what I am asking is what is the real possibility of our end WITHOUT Jesus. If Hell doesn't exist, where would we go if Jesus hadn't come? Limbo? How do I find scriptural support for the theoretical possibility of Jesus' incarnation never happening resulting in our... what? Total end? Annihilation? Purgatory? What would happen? How can I support it from scripture?
As Seth said death, but if I understand you're asking what would come after death. You won't find any biblical support on any other possibility of afterlife other than what is in the bible & Honestly Cap, I wouldn't focus on the question because God already paved a way for mankind. A loving God wouldn't put us in a hopeless, pointless situation like this & God is love is He not?? God's plan was NEVER going to fail, HE will become All in All and create the perfect family and it was F U L L P R O O F
. In fact the victory has already been won!
Asking what coulda, woulda happened is unnecessary, you're delving into a matter that is apart from the word of God & I think it would do more harm than good trying to discover the answer. God said 'I will fight for you! You need only be still!' HE WILL HE WILL HE WILL as a matter of fact HE HAS! Isn't that wonderful. Just have faith & even if its the grain of a mustard seed, that is a great start! There is no what if with God because what He says, He WILL do & He is extremely clear on that:
The LORD of hosts has sworn saying, "Surely, just as I have intended so it has happened, and just as I have planned so it will stand,
So will My word be which goes forth from My mouth; It will not return to Me empty, Without accomplishing what I desire, And without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.
also we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to His purpose who works ALL THINGS after the counsel of His will
"I know that You can do all things, And that no purpose of Yours can be thwarted.
Many plans are in a man's heart, But the counsel of the LORD will stand
"All the inhabitants of the earth are accounted as nothing, But He does according to His will in the host of heaven And among the inhabitants of earth; And no one can ward off His hand Or say to Him, `What have You done?'
Blessings & Love On Your Journey,
God is working on all of us & we're all here to support each other!