Another friend of mine has been with the same woman for over 20 years, never married, very devout Christian. So recently I asked him if they ever talked about marriage. She is on disability, and he said if they got married, her disability would be cut. Does he make enough money to support the both of them? Maybe. I don't really know (I think a lot of his income goes to supporting his parents, who are retired, and never had good paying jobs). I know that he is completely faithful to her, she is much older than him, but he said he would have no desire to find someone else if she passed away. So I am very impressed by his devotion to his partner, but I can hear the voices saying "Ooh! Abomination! Unmarried couple!" and all the cliche stuff. The older i get, the more I feel "what place do I have judging them, I'll let God do the judging", but then people hide behind their Bible and say "but the Bible says[/u]....".....I've just got a headache about the things I've seen/heard said in the church. Sometimes it makes me wish I didn't believe anymore...but I do, always will.
I'm not judging your friends, #1, because I don't feel it's my place. #2, because for all I know, if they've made a committment before God (even privately) maybe in His eyes they indeed are married. And #3, if I did
attempt some type of judgment, it would be about the behavior and what scripture says about it (as best as I can understand), not about the person
. How God ultimately deals with each of us is between us and Him. So anything I'd say to them (if at all) would be in the way of trying to help, and encourage them to take it before God in prayer.
Besides all that though - given the need for accurate translation, Spirit revelation, and the fact that none of us understand everything completely, and some mis-use and misinterpret scripture etiher out of ignorance or for personal gain, etc. - still, what does
the Bible say? Do you personally believe that's important? And do you believe someone believing and searching, trying to understand the scriptures with the right motives, necessarily
mean they're "hiding behind their Bible"? It seems to me, since most in the modern world have
been given the scriptures, the alternative is, "everyone doing what's right in their own eyes". (Judges 17:6) Blessings.